01 · Together
Couples in conflict
You love each other, but you keep landing in the same argument and the distance grows. Divorce doesn’t have to be the only option. Sometimes, conflict holds the key.
Conflict coaching & mediation · Amsterdam & online
Your relationship deserves more than this conflict.
Every conflict carries a core: an old pain, an unheard longing, a pattern that keeps returning. I help you find that core, so you can consciously choose what comes next. Together or apart: always from clarity, never from pain.
Sessions in English or Dutch · Amsterdam city centre or online · for expats and international couples
It’s not about communication. It’s about pain.
The conflict is not the cause. It is the signal. What is happening between you tells you something about what is alive within you. That’s why resolving conflict doesn’t begin with finding the right words, but with the courage to look at what lies beneath.
Who it’s for
Three doors, one core
02 · As parents
Co-parenting after separation
The separation is behind you, but the conflict lives on in every handover and every message. These sessions offer a clear, compassionate way forward, for you and for your children.
03 · For yourself
Coming alone
Your partner or ex won’t join? You don’t need the other person in the room. You just need to be willing to look. You are the key.
The philosophy
Where friction creates space
Between action and reaction there is a space. In that space lies your freedom. That is where the possibility to choose differently begins.
Every conflict carries an invitation to grow. Old pain, unmet needs, patterns from long ago. Once you see that core, not only the conflict changes, but also the way you look at yourself and the other.
This form of conflict resolution goes beyond classic mediation: it is a transformative process from within. I work with the conflict method of Chiquita Welmerink, with whom I trained. I am also inspired by Esther Perel and Brené Brown. About love, vulnerability and the space we give each other.
The approach
More than a mediator
Resolving a conflict for good takes more than good agreements. More than covenants and parenting plans. Beneath words, positions and practical questions there is often a whole layer at play: patterns, emotions, old pain and what happens in your body. That is why we look at the whole. At everything involved, to understand what is really going on and to change something lasting from there.
From conflict, to clarity, cooperation and concrete agreements.
- TransformativeNot a compromise as the end point, but seeing the core and choosing from there. That makes conflict resolution lasting, rather than a temporary truce.
- SystemicYou are part of a system. When you shift, the space around you shifts. The other feels it, even without explanation, and even when they are not in the room.
- HolisticHead, heart and body all take part, including the nervous system that is on high alert during conflict. Feeling and working it through makes it different: deeper, and lasting.
About the coach
Hanna Bloemhof
Conflict coach & mediator · Amsterdam
I work with couples, ex-partners and individuals who get stuck in conflict. In love, in parenting or within themselves. My approach goes beyond finding a compromise or putting agreements on paper. We explore what is really going on, what each person brings, and what is needed to change something fundamental.
My background is in massage therapy and coaching. There I learned to listen to what becomes visible beneath words: in the body, in patterns and in the way we react. Later, mediation came onto my path. I discovered how powerful those worlds are together: not only understanding the conflict, but truly working it through.
That is why I work in a transformative, systemic and holistic way. With attention to your part, your boundaries and your freedom to choose again. So that insight is not the end point, but the beginning of a different way of working together and connecting.
Trained in mediation & life coaching at the Welcom Instituut · transformative conflict resolution · Amsterdam & online · Dutch & English
Amsterdam & online
How it works
From introduction to core
- Free introduction
20 minutes by phone or online. You tell me what is going on, I explain how I work. Together we see whether it clicks.
- Intake & start
A short intake in which we go through the approach and practicalities. Then we get to work.
- To the core
Together or alone, in Amsterdam or online. In a few deep sessions we explore what is really underneath the conflict.
- Space for what comes next
Clarity creates space to choose again. Together, apart, or finding a new way forward as parents. The Cooperation Compass helps turn that into something practical.
Introductory prices: €975 for two people (first 10 programmes) · solo programme €495 (first 5 clients)
What clients experienced
In their own words
Hanna creates a safe space in which she, full of empathy, quickly gets to the core of the pain from which conflicts can arise. With a loving hand and humor she challenges you to open up, to go deep, and to take confrontational steps that really resolve the negative charge. I literally felt a weight lifted off my shoulders.
With her combination of bodywork and transformational conflict therapy, I was able to finally get to the core of invisible behavioural patterns. There is a new lightness in my life I have only thought was possible for other people.
Book a free introduction call
A free 20-minute call, by phone or online. You share what’s going on, I explain how I work, and together we sense whether it fits.
Prefer direct contact? Call +31 6 24 25 71 56 or email hanna@the-spacebetween.nl.